“The whole” is being generous considering how many horny boys went all “death by SnuSnu” or in general how many people were like “let’s give her a chance”
And to be fair, there’s a fair number of folks that would accept being ‘managed’ in exchange for having a partner and not being alone (and in fact, with little to do but follow the regime as it is laid out…). I’m not saying that’s a great thing or long-time forever, but I’ve seen some narcissistic people ensnare a willing victim and they get him so tight that the victim fights to stay in that situation and even stepping away from friend and even family. One of our family members (a brother-in-law of mine) stepped away from his sister, his… Read more »
Ugh, yeah, I’m a dude who’s been married over a decade, and I am finding this hard to read. Though usually when I ran into an abrasive woman it was more about anyone disagreeing with her about anything ever being literal evil to her. Not politics (though that did happen too) — one of them rejected people as having any intrinsic value over their… shoes. Like “you don’t have stylish shoes so your opinion doesn’t count.” That was an actual living, breathing human (or possibly a demon in a human skinsuit) that I once dated, but it took a while… Read more »
Yeah – Minnesota nice (the passive aggressive variety).
Derptastic
1 day ago
What bothers me with this is that Ethan might be Ethan, be he’s neither sheltered nor a clueless individual. It feels a bit strange for him to be this dense about that red flag parade.
When you’re being showered with affection & attraction (or what seems like it) for the first time in a long time… it’s very easy to lie to yourself, or at least simply not think straight.
Maybe after a discussion (or argument) with Lucas we’ll see Ethan giving the situation a proper think while he’s in bed trying to sleep, and realising all the red flags he’s been ignoring.
Agreed. I think deep down Ethan knows better. He’s just been alone for a while and hes ignoring the very obvious red flags in exchange for what he is telling himself is affection.
Also, consider Ethan’s threshold for “normal.” Remember, this is the same guy who – after breaking up with Emily – thought that the postman who replaced her was Emily in disguise and didn’t think the idea of his ex-girlfriend disguising herself as a man was weird at all; he just thought it was immature.
This is the guy who, in an alt timeline put whitening strips on his eyes instead of his teeth right after reading a warning that told him to not do exactly that. I don’t know that it’s at all out of character for him.
I would laugh for days if Ethan said he’s just going along with this to have sex.
Bwauder
1 day ago
The mood flip in P2 would set my alarms and sirens screaming.
Whatever you identify as,for anyone in Ethans position its time to run/abandon ship before you lose complete control of your life.
Oyee
1 day ago
I agree with the “Ew, ick, run for your life” IRL, but I think this arc would hit us comment section less if we could read the whole arc in one go.
Give Tim some slack, everyone telling a story deserves to have some over the top tropes every once in a while. It’s been a while since I saw a good ‘ol old-internet-crazy-bee character type.
Robert
1 day ago
Theeere it is.
Lily
1 day ago
Personally I was for giving her a chance, since even though there is some red flags, she hadn’t actually crossed any lines. She was just very assertive. This would be crossing a line though, since it isn’t being assertive but manipulative.
I could see an argument for it being a “test”, or her own bad date trauma manifesting so she took control first. Then after that first date mellow out a bit.
But here she not only surpassed all that, she is speed running the abuser checklist.
Ya, i was thinking the same. If any of it could have been excused as maybe… not understanding(?) how manipulative it is to do the things she was doing but not technically a horrible person, this clears any doubt.
So this arc is extremely uncomfortable and I’m really not liking how oblivious Ethan is to it. Like, I know he hasn’t dated in what must feel like forever but holy hell man.
This is the polar opposite of Lucas’ dating arc.
Graeme Spence
1 day ago
I had an ex just like her.
If I was busy she would cry that I was cheating.
Kick off when I had plans with friends. I stuck by it for 6 months before I realised she was slowly isolating me from friends
Out of curiosity, have you looked at any Captain Prime appearances lately? Gender and maybe hair style are about the only thing her and Nicole have in common. They look and act nothing alike.
Blue Griffin
1 day ago
I’m actually curious how he got matched up with her. They don’t seem to mesh well. Usually a dating app tries to recommend/pair people that would seem to be compatible?
Or was this just swipe based on looks/who’s in your area?
I would have loved to have such a dating app when I was single, but I have never seen one that went beyond basic parameters like the type of relationship one is looking for or if someone wants children. Of course, that is much harder to actually quantify…
That kind of matching does rely on both parties being honest on their profile. I doubt there are many profiles openly going ‘abusive personality looking for victim’, they’ll put something like ‘nice and caring’ that would match with their intented target.
And the video game shared interest probably played a role.
It’s clear she lied. She didn’t even put a picture of herself that accurately showed what she looked like, who knows what else was wrong in that profile.
That’s not really true, according to Ethan she actually did look exactly like her picture. Just a lot taller than he was expecting.
Technically there could have been a lie about her height somewhere , but it seems more likely that it simply didn’t come up and Ethan just assumed wrong (or missed it somewhere).
There are plenty of actual red flags, no need to make up false ones.
Ok, ok, I get why it *can* be a bad thing, but the execution matters a lot too. And I’m enjoying this arc even as we’re all yelling at Ethan just how many red flags this woman is throwing at him 😆
Eodyne
1 day ago
Hopefully as soon as the door closes behind Lucas is like “Dude…we gotta talk…”
Nik
1 day ago
I reiterate:
Run Ethan.
Run away now.*
*I had a friend in college who had a girlfriend like this.
Trust me psycho bitches be psycho.
naustghoul
1 day ago
Going for a ride on the crazy train sounds fun… until the rails come off. Then later there’s running, screaming, and general fun for people watching that do not know you.
Those are red flags even in BDSM relationships. Actually.. ESPECIALLY in BDSM -relationships
J C
1 day ago
I see that Lucas is as impressed with her as the rest of us.
Richard Weatherfield
1 day ago
Aaaaand three strikes. You’re out. This woman has some deep seated issues that will only make Ethan’s life hell for the foreseeable future. I was wary when she changed his drink order. I was concerned when she made him change his clothes to the point of going shopping for new ones. I am now a full on counselor for Camp Runthefuckaway.
Hopefully Ethan gets rid of her quickly.
Quarter
1 day ago
I love how uncomfortable this is. I’ve been in an abusive relationship that felt a lot like this. Despite what people are saying, it never looks so scary from the inside. That’s why it works, especially if you’re emotionally vulnerable like Ethan is.
Andhaka
1 day ago
Ok, red flags all the way.
Is she going to flip at some point and “kill” Ethan so to finally resolve the serum thingy?
cheers
TRwolf
1 day ago
Danger Will Robinson! Danger! Well, here we go. This is how we find out his powers still work, a stabbing from a manipulative controlling GF, or EX GF if it makes it that far.
Vladimir
1 day ago
Though cowards flinch and traitors sneer / We’ll keep the red flag flying here.
Kasey
1 day ago
I wonder if this will turn into a “me or nobody” situation where we find out the hard way if Ethan has his powers or not (with a nod towards you don’t need to be super to be a villian). I kinda hope not but Tim has hit upon sensitive topics like that in the past.
chargersfan
1 day ago
My guess is that Ethan eventually sees the light and breaks it off with her; she knows where he works now so she starts stalking him, eventually leading to her figuring out his alter ego.
Depending on just how bananas this girl is, she might, down the road, join or maybe take over the troll army.
Just a guess. My aplogies if this was discussed in the comment section prior; I don’t read all of them.
Can we stop this storyline? Or at least have her get raped to death by angry gorillas? I am normally a pretty chill guy but this arc doesn’t sit well with me and I find it extremely offputting, makes me almost agressive even. I mean I come here to be entertained and because I love the characters, not to be triggered!
My answer would be “no” regardless of how you asked me to abandon a storyline, but it’s wild that you thought someone being “raped to death” was some sort of humorous compromise.
Wow, what a take. And yeah, sure. That response definitely signals “chill guy”.
So sorry to hear that this triggers you, but I like that Tim is providing a gender-flipped and not at all exaggerated representation of what is a very common lived experience for many women unfortunate enough to go on a date with any guy who listens to the advice of the Manosphere red-pill troglodytes with a podcast mic from Trust Me Bro University.
I mean I guess this is valid, but it’s still weird to me that despite there being many men in the comments who relate directly to the situation, you’re still processing this as “a gender flipped female experience”
You’re right. Just because it does happen disproportionately more often to women than men doesn’t mean this exact scenario isn’t representative of some men’s experiences. That was a valid callout, and I appreciate it. I think that the larger issue is often the power dynamics at play. Since more often than not, men who are controlling and manipulative like this are also capable of physically dominating their partner, it becomes more dangerous than when a woman is emotionally manipulative and toxic in this way towards a man. Although, in this instance I think Nicole could physically overpower Ethan, which is… Read more »
You know. One of the main reasons I hate the current storyline is, because i was sexually assaulted by someone like her. And like Ethan i wasn’t the kinda person with the willpower to defend myself against it.
This being said. Even Nicole appears like the nicest and sanest person in the world compared to you.
You need to be a certain kind of fucked up to demand someone to be raped to death. Even more so if you thought it was some sort of joke (which I’m sure it wasn’t)
I’m sorry that happened to you. 🥺 It’s scary to see that more than one guy in this comments section has said the same thing about their own personal experiences about being S.A.’d by a woman. It’s good that the MeToo movement happened because a lot of women get S.A.’d, but I also know that a lot of men hold an incredible amount of shame and don’t really talk about it if it happens to them. This storyline is a little uncomfortable for me too, but I also think this needs to play out because it doesn’t get talked about… Read more »
Tim
1 day ago
“Did I say I’m not into this? I already explained my confusion. Would you like to know what I did have planned? Perhaps you’d be interested in that? Maybe we can make time to do your thing AND my thing? No? Not interested in a plan that isn’t yours? Okay then, sounds like you made the decision for us. Imagine that. Enjoy your meal”
Giggity Goo
1 day ago
Ah… Ethan’s finally showing some concern over the plans she’s making without consulting him or considering his actual life. Granted, it’s concern over the entire wrong aspects of it… but… progress? For everyone (including myself) who was debating if she’s secretly actually Deathblood… I feel like even Deathblood would be like “yeah…. that’s a definite red flag.” I’m now leaning more into the camp of her going full aggro when he cuts it off and we find out that he CAN respawn. And she goes to jail. And also, that would out his identity as it would be Ethan respawning,… Read more »
her breaking ethan is what will prove he still immortal i can see it.
Sweetos
1 day ago
This is fun, I can see Ethan totally getting married here.
Demotis
21 hours ago
She is going to break him.
Concerned
15 hours ago
Sorry, but as much of a fan of CAD as I am, I’m noping out of this arc. This is triggering my PTSD – I was in a toxic relationship very similar to this which became emotionally abusive and involved a lot of gaslighting and DARVO. It is hitting FAR too close to home. If Tim is watching, I’d strongly appreciate an idea of how long this arc will be continuing so that I know when I can resume reading.
Kif
13 hours ago
Yes, we all agree she’s a toxic pile of red flags. BUT am I the only one who still wants to see the story unfold? Ethan is a fictional character, zero harm comes from exploring letting the scenario play out and exploring the consequences. And it might even help people in the audience learn how to recognize the signs, and to avoid getting in that situation, or to recognize that they are in that situation, or even how not to become a Nicole. Let’s face it, Lilah is still a long way out, and a healthy relationship with someone else… Read more »
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Nope. Just nope. Emotional manipulation and controlling as hell. Would be ghosted like I was Casper’s not so friendly ghost buddy.
not sure she’d let that be an option
Yeah she’s throwing a ton of “will become a stalker if you ghost” signals
If only somebody could see the red flags before hand. Unfortunately Ethan is not as perceptive as the whole CTRL-ALT-DEL comment section.
“The whole” is being generous considering how many horny boys went all “death by SnuSnu” or in general how many people were like “let’s give her a chance”
The “giving her a chance” was at least 3 panels ago, though
I also would wonder how many “death by SnuSnu” and “let’s give her a chance” were deliberately trying to sabotage Ethan for the funsies.
And to be fair, there’s a fair number of folks that would accept being ‘managed’ in exchange for having a partner and not being alone (and in fact, with little to do but follow the regime as it is laid out…). I’m not saying that’s a great thing or long-time forever, but I’ve seen some narcissistic people ensnare a willing victim and they get him so tight that the victim fights to stay in that situation and even stepping away from friend and even family. One of our family members (a brother-in-law of mine) stepped away from his sister, his… Read more »
For that to be healthy, you need to *negotiate* that in *advance*.
Too late, she knows where Ethan works…
He can fake his death – and very convincingly too
Hell, maybe that’ll be how he gets out of it AND learns that he still has his powers? Would be heck of a story tie-in 😀
Canary in the mineshaft… or perhaps the rabbit in the cooking pot….
Or not very convincingly at all, if he pops right back up!
ew. This whole dating arc is over the top and too much ick at once
Ugh, yeah, I’m a dude who’s been married over a decade, and I am finding this hard to read. Though usually when I ran into an abrasive woman it was more about anyone disagreeing with her about anything ever being literal evil to her. Not politics (though that did happen too) — one of them rejected people as having any intrinsic value over their… shoes. Like “you don’t have stylish shoes so your opinion doesn’t count.” That was an actual living, breathing human (or possibly a demon in a human skinsuit) that I once dated, but it took a while… Read more »
I can’t help but wonder if she’s written so obviously because most people wouldn’t GET it otherwise.
But here I am having a hard time even believing Ethan would put up with this.
…she seems nice.
In a ‘probably tear out your spine if you stand up for yourself’ kind of way, sure.
Yeah – Minnesota nice (the passive aggressive variety).
What bothers me with this is that Ethan might be Ethan, be he’s neither sheltered nor a clueless individual. It feels a bit strange for him to be this dense about that red flag parade.
When you’re being showered with affection & attraction (or what seems like it) for the first time in a long time… it’s very easy to lie to yourself, or at least simply not think straight.
Maybe after a discussion (or argument) with Lucas we’ll see Ethan giving the situation a proper think while he’s in bed trying to sleep, and realising all the red flags he’s been ignoring.
Yeah excactly, biochemistry can be horrible. It´s a pretty great depiction of how stuff we shake our heads about in hindsight develops.
Agreed. I think deep down Ethan knows better. He’s just been alone for a while and hes ignoring the very obvious red flags in exchange for what he is telling himself is affection.
Also, consider Ethan’s threshold for “normal.” Remember, this is the same guy who – after breaking up with Emily – thought that the postman who replaced her was Emily in disguise and didn’t think the idea of his ex-girlfriend disguising herself as a man was weird at all; he just thought it was immature.
Ethan is in his core a nice guy (not a “nice guy”. Which means he’s not really assertive and sure about himself.
So he’s not gonna be able to keep her at bay until it reaches a boiling point.
This is the guy who, in an alt timeline put whitening strips on his eyes instead of his teeth right after reading a warning that told him to not do exactly that. I don’t know that it’s at all out of character for him.
I would laugh for days if Ethan said he’s just going along with this to have sex.
The mood flip in P2 would set my alarms and sirens screaming.
Whatever you identify as,for anyone in Ethans position its time to run/abandon ship before you lose complete control of your life.
I agree with the “Ew, ick, run for your life” IRL, but I think this arc would hit us comment section less if we could read the whole arc in one go.
Give Tim some slack, everyone telling a story deserves to have some over the top tropes every once in a while. It’s been a while since I saw a good ‘ol old-internet-crazy-bee character type.
Theeere it is.
Personally I was for giving her a chance, since even though there is some red flags, she hadn’t actually crossed any lines. She was just very assertive. This would be crossing a line though, since it isn’t being assertive but manipulative.
What are you talking about? She crossed a line the moment she spoke over Ethan to change his drink order.
I could see an argument for it being a “test”, or her own bad date trauma manifesting so she took control first. Then after that first date mellow out a bit.
But here she not only surpassed all that, she is speed running the abuser checklist.
Ya, i was thinking the same. If any of it could have been excused as maybe… not understanding(?) how manipulative it is to do the things she was doing but not technically a horrible person, this clears any doubt.
Agreed, but I have a feeling your commis going to downvoted to oblivion.
This feels a little like Borderline Personality Disorder.
Okay that flag is no longer red. It’s crimson!!!
The comments section here is like a choir in a greek tragedy, warning the hero of obvious mistake
Analog and D-Pad: The Opera – soon on Broadway?
I got me my ticket
So this arc is extremely uncomfortable and I’m really not liking how oblivious Ethan is to it. Like, I know he hasn’t dated in what must feel like forever but holy hell man.
This is the polar opposite of Lucas’ dating arc.
I had an ex just like her.
If I was busy she would cry that I was cheating.
Kick off when I had plans with friends. I stuck by it for 6 months before I realised she was slowly isolating me from friends
I’m glad you got yourself away from that! 😳
Not gonna lie. Hoping for a Truck transporting s load of red flags to hit her outside the shop so we can skip this horror show.
That Would be pretty funny! Isekaied to Attack on Titan.
YIKES. The shop is absolutely covered in all those red flags. Run and don’t look back
That’s OK, Larry will take them down.
I don’t feel like Lamar should do Ethan’s Job
Dude, make like the flash
Good thing that happened in front of Lucas. Let’s hope he’ll be able to explain to Ethan, what Ethan himself is unable to grasp here.
You mean Larry, right?
Lenny yes
Still on the train that this is Captain “Love me or I crush your head between my thighs” Prime
Out of curiosity, have you looked at any Captain Prime appearances lately? Gender and maybe hair style are about the only thing her and Nicole have in common. They look and act nothing alike.
I’m actually curious how he got matched up with her. They don’t seem to mesh well. Usually a dating app tries to recommend/pair people that would seem to be compatible?
Or was this just swipe based on looks/who’s in your area?
I would have loved to have such a dating app when I was single, but I have never seen one that went beyond basic parameters like the type of relationship one is looking for or if someone wants children. Of course, that is much harder to actually quantify…
That kind of matching does rely on both parties being honest on their profile. I doubt there are many profiles openly going ‘abusive personality looking for victim’, they’ll put something like ‘nice and caring’ that would match with their intented target.
And the video game shared interest probably played a role.
It’s clear she lied. She didn’t even put a picture of herself that accurately showed what she looked like, who knows what else was wrong in that profile.
That’s not really true, according to Ethan she actually did look exactly like her picture. Just a lot taller than he was expecting.
Technically there could have been a lie about her height somewhere , but it seems more likely that it simply didn’t come up and Ethan just assumed wrong (or missed it somewhere).
There are plenty of actual red flags, no need to make up false ones.
Abusers don’t advert themselves as such.
This is like figuring out the entire plot of a movie in the first scene and then having to watch it anyway.
You say that like it’s a bad thing 😉
Ok, ok, I get why it *can* be a bad thing, but the execution matters a lot too. And I’m enjoying this arc even as we’re all yelling at Ethan just how many red flags this woman is throwing at him 😆
Hopefully as soon as the door closes behind Lucas is like “Dude…we gotta talk…”
I reiterate:
Run Ethan.
Run away now.*
*I had a friend in college who had a girlfriend like this.
Trust me psycho bitches be psycho.
Going for a ride on the crazy train sounds fun… until the rails come off. Then later there’s running, screaming, and general fun for people watching that do not know you.
Take. The. Hint.
RIP Ozzy.
Mixing some metaphors there?
Maybe Ethan accidentally joined a dom/sub dating site.
This would be really funny. Like, I don’t even get what is motivating her? Even if you are a control freak why make him drink a different beer?
To see if he will let her do it. If he fights back, she finds a weaker target.
Those are red flags even in BDSM relationships. Actually.. ESPECIALLY in BDSM -relationships
I see that Lucas is as impressed with her as the rest of us.
Aaaaand three strikes. You’re out. This woman has some deep seated issues that will only make Ethan’s life hell for the foreseeable future. I was wary when she changed his drink order. I was concerned when she made him change his clothes to the point of going shopping for new ones. I am now a full on counselor for Camp Runthefuckaway.
Hopefully Ethan gets rid of her quickly.
I love how uncomfortable this is. I’ve been in an abusive relationship that felt a lot like this. Despite what people are saying, it never looks so scary from the inside. That’s why it works, especially if you’re emotionally vulnerable like Ethan is.
Ok, red flags all the way.
Is she going to flip at some point and “kill” Ethan so to finally resolve the serum thingy?
cheers
Danger Will Robinson! Danger! Well, here we go. This is how we find out his powers still work, a stabbing from a manipulative controlling GF, or EX GF if it makes it that far.
Though cowards flinch and traitors sneer / We’ll keep the red flag flying here.
I wonder if this will turn into a “me or nobody” situation where we find out the hard way if Ethan has his powers or not (with a nod towards you don’t need to be super to be a villian). I kinda hope not but Tim has hit upon sensitive topics like that in the past.
My guess is that Ethan eventually sees the light and breaks it off with her; she knows where he works now so she starts stalking him, eventually leading to her figuring out his alter ego.
Depending on just how bananas this girl is, she might, down the road, join or maybe take over the troll army.
Just a guess. My aplogies if this was discussed in the comment section prior; I don’t read all of them.
Well, good thing Larry is dating a cop!
Can we stop this storyline? Or at least have her get raped to death by angry gorillas? I am normally a pretty chill guy but this arc doesn’t sit well with me and I find it extremely offputting, makes me almost agressive even. I mean I come here to be entertained and because I love the characters, not to be triggered!
My answer would be “no” regardless of how you asked me to abandon a storyline, but it’s wild that you thought someone being “raped to death” was some sort of humorous compromise.
Wow, what a take. And yeah, sure. That response definitely signals “chill guy”.
So sorry to hear that this triggers you, but I like that Tim is providing a gender-flipped and not at all exaggerated representation of what is a very common lived experience for many women unfortunate enough to go on a date with any guy who listens to the advice of the Manosphere red-pill troglodytes with a podcast mic from Trust Me Bro University.
I mean I guess this is valid, but it’s still weird to me that despite there being many men in the comments who relate directly to the situation, you’re still processing this as “a gender flipped female experience”
You’re right. Just because it does happen disproportionately more often to women than men doesn’t mean this exact scenario isn’t representative of some men’s experiences. That was a valid callout, and I appreciate it. I think that the larger issue is often the power dynamics at play. Since more often than not, men who are controlling and manipulative like this are also capable of physically dominating their partner, it becomes more dangerous than when a woman is emotionally manipulative and toxic in this way towards a man. Although, in this instance I think Nicole could physically overpower Ethan, which is… Read more »
You know. One of the main reasons I hate the current storyline is, because i was sexually assaulted by someone like her. And like Ethan i wasn’t the kinda person with the willpower to defend myself against it.
This being said. Even Nicole appears like the nicest and sanest person in the world compared to you.
You need to be a certain kind of fucked up to demand someone to be raped to death. Even more so if you thought it was some sort of joke (which I’m sure it wasn’t)
I’m sorry that happened to you. 🥺 It’s scary to see that more than one guy in this comments section has said the same thing about their own personal experiences about being S.A.’d by a woman. It’s good that the MeToo movement happened because a lot of women get S.A.’d, but I also know that a lot of men hold an incredible amount of shame and don’t really talk about it if it happens to them. This storyline is a little uncomfortable for me too, but I also think this needs to play out because it doesn’t get talked about… Read more »
“Did I say I’m not into this? I already explained my confusion. Would you like to know what I did have planned? Perhaps you’d be interested in that? Maybe we can make time to do your thing AND my thing? No? Not interested in a plan that isn’t yours? Okay then, sounds like you made the decision for us. Imagine that. Enjoy your meal”
Ah… Ethan’s finally showing some concern over the plans she’s making without consulting him or considering his actual life. Granted, it’s concern over the entire wrong aspects of it… but… progress? For everyone (including myself) who was debating if she’s secretly actually Deathblood… I feel like even Deathblood would be like “yeah…. that’s a definite red flag.” I’m now leaning more into the camp of her going full aggro when he cuts it off and we find out that he CAN respawn. And she goes to jail. And also, that would out his identity as it would be Ethan respawning,… Read more »
Guh! Obviously she’s Zeke! :eyeroll:
her breaking ethan is what will prove he still immortal i can see it.
This is fun, I can see Ethan totally getting married here.
She is going to break him.
Sorry, but as much of a fan of CAD as I am, I’m noping out of this arc. This is triggering my PTSD – I was in a toxic relationship very similar to this which became emotionally abusive and involved a lot of gaslighting and DARVO. It is hitting FAR too close to home. If Tim is watching, I’d strongly appreciate an idea of how long this arc will be continuing so that I know when I can resume reading.
Yes, we all agree she’s a toxic pile of red flags. BUT am I the only one who still wants to see the story unfold? Ethan is a fictional character, zero harm comes from exploring letting the scenario play out and exploring the consequences. And it might even help people in the audience learn how to recognize the signs, and to avoid getting in that situation, or to recognize that they are in that situation, or even how not to become a Nicole. Let’s face it, Lilah is still a long way out, and a healthy relationship with someone else… Read more »
No you’re not the only one, I’m here for the story both the good and bad.
I’m thinking dude looks like a lady….
If she’s such a red flag, you could at least draw her butt better.