So I don’t why, but I hate making the choice to bail on something because I’m sick (doesn’t apply to work anymore; I have to do my job no matter how sick I am. But you know, other things). To be clear, the bailing part I’m okay with; being the one to verbalize it makes me feel guilty though, even if I know I’d be better off resting.
Therefore I tend to go to whatever event it is that I don’t feel up for and then just trying to project how crappy I feel. To be as stoically and visibly miserable as I can, in the hopes that someone else will say “Oh you poor thing, you shouldn’t be here! Go home and rest!”
Perhaps its residual guilt from the many times I faked being sick to stay home from school, but I always just feel better when someone else has verified my illness. When I know they know I’m really sick. Because then I’m at home with the comfort of that second opinion: “Nope, even they said I should stay home and rest.” It’s like I don’t trust my own brain to make that diagnosis alone, because maybe somewhere deep down its just plotting excuses for us to stay in bed.